Here are the themes for the next 3 months' posts: I'm so excited!!
AUGUST -- SELF LOVE - WARM & FUZZY w/ourselves
SEPTEMBER -- SELF-DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
OCTOBER -- ISOLATION
So this blog post is a sequel to the last one.
I talked about why when we feel hesitant or unsure about a decision or situation we're in, the answer has to be automatically NO. This is especially true for major decisions --- like what town to live in, what job to take, how you feel about a certain apartment or house. If you are uncertain.... then NO. It's not right.
This post I promised I would talk about why I feel this to be the correct policy.
Why I Don't Know Means NO:
We are scared
We're scared to take the leap and outright say no for fear of losing out on a good opportunity. "What if it's the 'right one'? What if we don't have another good opportunity for a while and then totally regret that we didn't take this one?"
However --- this is the scarcity mentality, that things in the world are not enough to go around. And that we have to grab what we can for ourselves. Instead of thinking: the right one for us is out there and we will definitely know it when we see it.
We may end up in a bad situation out of fear
We need to interpret our uncertainty as no, because otherwise we'll end up in a bad situation that was not at all right for us. It will create daily unhappiness, misery, and a bad foundation for the rest of our decisions. Course correction takes a lot more energy and time than choosing the right decision in the first place. And all because we were simply scared. Fear is normal; you just need to find a way to process it, and not base your decision-making from it!
We will know when we know
Same as I said above, when it's right you will definitely know. You will feel 150% certain. That takes trust in yourself, in your intuition and gut. Trust that we know ourselves the best.